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February 17, 2010

Marriage or Affair?

Filed under: Uncategorized — carlacassidy @ 2:35 am

     I was having a conversation with one of my fellow writers, Valerie Francis, the other day and she said something that I told her I was going to steal from her, so here it is…

     I have affairs with my manuscripts, not marriages.  I’m not one to hang around and re-think, analyze and pick to death the relationship.  I want to get it done and get it out of my life.

     I know many writers who have marriages with their work in progress.  They write the book, they re-write the book, they angst and write it again and suffer and can’t seem to let it go.  In some cases they work on the book for years, long after the passion has gone. 

     I’m not advocating letting go of a manuscript before it’s ready for an editor’s eyes, but I think it’s important for a writer to know when it’s enough and time for the divorce.

     I’ve had many affairs and sometimes I can’t even remember my past loves, but in my eyes they’ve been smart affairs.  One of the secrets to being a productive working writer is knowing when to finally let go.

     So, on that note, happy writing!


  1. So true. I’m hoping to ditch my WIP in the very near future. Either it or I have outstayed our welcome. One of us has got to go!

    Good to see you back in the blogging world!

    Comment by Heather Snow — February 17, 2010 @ 5:49 am | Reply

    • Heather,
      This blogging world is hard to keep up with – and I’m not sure what identity I should have here. But, I’m gonna try to be here more often than I’ve been in the past. Heard that before, right?!

      Comment by carlacassidy — February 18, 2010 @ 2:04 am | Reply

  2. I think you can overwork a manuscript until the passion you had for it in the first place is gone. I’m hypercritical of most of my work but when I notice that at some point I’m starting to put things back in that I’ve taken out, the energy, for lack of a better word, in the manuscript is diminished and it shows. I’d rather have an affair…a really short affair.

    Comment by Paris Brandon — February 17, 2010 @ 2:24 pm | Reply

    • Paris,
      I’ve seen it happen over and over again – the re-writing until the passion is gone. I need the passion!

      Comment by carlacassidy — February 18, 2010 @ 2:03 am | Reply

  3. Affairs is right! Dwelling on a manuscript doesn’t help…quick writing, your true self dealing with the plot and flow of the story, usually is the best answer. Otherwise, you’re reworking something that might never work. Book affairs I can handle. More than one “marriage” in my life is enough!
    Nice topic…gives you reason to sit back and think about how you approach writing.

    Comment by Marianne Stephens — February 17, 2010 @ 9:50 pm | Reply

    • Marianne,
      I just can’t imagine staying with a manuscript for a year or two. Whenever I’m working on a project I always feel a sense of urgency, a need to get the story down as quickly as possible. If I take too long and lose some of that urgency I feel like the story suffers. And I’m with you, one marriage in my life is quite enough!

      Comment by carlacassidy — February 18, 2010 @ 2:01 am | Reply

  4. An interesting blog, Carla. I think you are right. I’ve had too many marriages with my books, and some of them still didn’t work. I’m going to start having affairs, really short ones even. lol

    I agree that one marriage is quite enough. Smile.

    Comment by Sandy — February 18, 2010 @ 3:43 am | Reply

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