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October 5, 2009

Validation and the Writer

Filed under: Uncategorized — carlacassidy @ 12:59 am

As a published writer I always thought I would be validated when I got my first book published, maybe when I cashed my first check.  After all, success and money is definitely validation, right?  But, all too quickly I realized I needed something more to feel like I was doing what I was supposed to be with my writing.  So, I decided reviews were a great way to feel validated.

HA!  Sure, I’ve learned to embrace my good reviews, but sometimes it’s hard to ignore the less than stellar ones.  Before long I realized that if I got a lukewarm review on a book, suddenly that’s how I felt about it.   I was allowing the various reviews to mean too much to me and how I felt about myself as a writer.

This past week I got the kind of validation that I needed, the kind that will last a long time to come.  I received a fan letter from a 13 year-old girl who had read Last Gasp.  She loved it.  She’s passing it to her friends and they love it.  She’s excited to read more books like it.  Every word in her note to me reminded me of why I wanted to be a writer, what is really important.

She told me she cried at the end of the book, not only because everything she wanted to happen, happened, but also because it was the end of the book and there was no more to read.  If she only knew what a gift she gave me with her enthusiasm.  She made me remember what was important – touching readers one at a time. 

It would be nice to get a note like that for every book I write, but somehow I’m okay if I only get one in my lifetime as a writer.  I go to bed tonight knowing that I touched somebody with my words.  And for now, that’s enough.

Later!

Carla

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8 Comments »

  1. Well said, Carla. Nothing I know of even comes to close to validating a writer like having touched a reader. Having done that, all the time spent, the grueling what ifs to be resolved, the hours of work are all so worth it when a reader tells you how you touched their lives and their emotions.

    Comment by Wilburta Arrowood — October 5, 2009 @ 1:30 am | Reply

  2. Well said, Carla. Nothing I know of even comes close to validating a writer like having touched a reader. Having done that, all the time spent, the grueling what ifs to be resolved, the hours of work are all so worth it when a reader tells you how you touched their lives and their emotions.

    Comment by Wilburta Arrowood — October 5, 2009 @ 1:31 am | Reply

  3. IMHO, making an emotional connection like that with a reader is worth a million reviews–good or bad.

    Comment by Leigh — October 5, 2009 @ 2:01 am | Reply

  4. Wow! What a lovely letter from that girl. I would be happy with just one letter like that.

    Instead, I just read a horrible review of The Catalyst that was posted at The Romance Studio Review site last month.

    So glad you received something to make your day.

    Comment by Sandy — October 5, 2009 @ 4:26 am | Reply

  5. I think I would frame that letter and put it over my computer. How wonderful. And I’m glad to hear I’m not the only one out there that let’s bad comments about my stories affect me. Thanks for understanding.

    Comment by Linda Kage — October 6, 2009 @ 6:10 pm | Reply

    • Linda,
      Trust me, I don’t think I’ll ever get to a place where reviews don’t bother me in one way or another. If I get one that’s less than stellar I just remind myself this isn’t brain surgery – I write to entertain and not every book will work for every reader. It’s just part of being a writer, yes – that and of course being utterly neurotic!

      Comment by carlacassidy — October 7, 2009 @ 1:45 am | Reply

  6. Carla,
    You are so right. We write to entertain and if we touch a reader we’ve done our jobs. Kudos to you, kid! You’ve been doing a good job for a very long time.

    Comment by Paris Brandon — October 12, 2009 @ 1:43 pm | Reply

  7. Hi Carla I just wanted to let you know how much I enjoy reading your books. My anut is Judy Ridgley and she gave me some of your books to read. I fell in love with them and you. I also want to say Thanks for the book “Without A Sound” that you signed and gave to Judy to give to me. I wish I could find your books in stores like Wal-Mart and K-Mart. Pleas tell me where I can find your books. Aunt Judy also tells me that you need to get a good publisher to get your name out there. I agree with her. You are just as good as Danielle Steel, Debbie Macomber and Johm Grisham. Pleas e-mail me back and let me know how I can get your books. Every now and then I can find them at a Thrift or Goodwill Store. I am looking foward to hearing from you soon.
    Your Reader Friend
    Donna Ridgley
    dridgley@charter.net

    Comment by Donna Ridgley — January 7, 2010 @ 9:47 pm | Reply


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